Dude, Where's Our Car? Part II
Corbyn Hightower
04.07.10, 12:41pm Comments (14)

The Hightower family goes birthday shopping without a car.

Part of a continuing diary of how Corbyn's Hightower's family of five is surviving the Great Recession. In the first installment, "Dude, Where's Our Car?" Corbyn describes how the family was forced to sell their car in order to make the rent. Now, she describes their first week carfree.

Our first week without a car in suburbia tested our mettle. First there was the challenge of aquiring the supplies, cake, balloons, and gifts for a child's birthday before we were able to buy a bike trailer (note: bought five helium balloons; lost two to the mysteries of high-traffic bike maneuvers). The cake slid and arrived destroyed, but we were able to poke candles into the pile, and it tasted just as good.

The next trial came when my husband cycled four miles to take our son to swim class, and only discovered he'd forgotten the suit and towels after getting to the pool. Thankfully, he had left plenty of time for error. In the end, it was about sixteen miles all-told for that Saturday morning journey. This raises the question: are we going to just trade gas expenses for extra food expenses? Luckily, I have fat to spare. For once, my body's predilection towards saving fat for times of famine may actually come in handy.

After a week of riding around on my ancient, barely-functioning Schwinn, I was glad that my workhorse, entry-price cruiser finally arrived and had been assembled at the bike store (at left). And just in time as the Schwinn finally broke beyond repair, and I was supposed to take the toddlers to an Easter party the next morning. The problem? The bike was delivered to the wrong location, ten miles away. I made my way there (bus system? Fail. Resorted to a painfully-expensive cab ride,) and rode home the ten hilly, high traffic ten miles in a downpour with high winds. Got some concerned looks, but arrived home with no permanent damage to my body or spirit.

Interesting lesson has been that the things I thought would be challenges (weather, motivation) turned out to be minor hurdles. What has been hard is forgetting important components of the planned activity. Every trip requires advanced planning. Your car functions not just as a vehicle, but also as a rolling purse or suitcase. For example, if you are trying to return library books, drop off clothing to charity, and go to the pool, you have to figure what order makes sense based solely on how much stuff you have to schlep in wherever you go, as there's nowhere safe to leave your things.

I never see any other families on bikes in our town, unless it's a weekend or holiday, and then they are in the park or at the trail, Having Fun, not simply doing errands or bringing the kids to the library or community center. On nice days, I feel lucky to be living this way. It gives me the feeling of childhood, of summer, of time off. All integrated into the chores and routines of daily living.

I've bedecked the new cruiser and trailer with masses of cheap fake flowers, intertwined through the frame, basket, and handlebars. I wrap the children in colorful quilts when they're in the trailer; we sing and shout and comment on what we see. Sometimes they fight, cramped in the small space, and I feel like I'm dragging Punch and Judy snarling in a nylon bag, while passing cars see fists flying and wonder why this woman is pulling her children along in the pouring rain in the narrow bike lane of a busy thoroughfare.

A surprising response to our lot is this: when casual strangers discover we are living car-free, they become quick to defend their lives and their driving. I'm thinking of wearing a sign: Not Holier Than Thou. I feel guilty taking moral credit for this sacrifice. This is not my environmental "statement." I was as addicted to my car as all of you. This was a choice driven by hardship, though people are awarding us a medal for our green lifestyle.

Daughter Rainer's new bike.

Many close family members made concerned noises when we sold the Honda. What about the kids, they asked, wringing their hands. What about emergencies? Isn't it irresponsible to raise your family in the suburbs without a vehicle? No, what is irresponsible is keeping a car when you can't afford it. What is hard to explain is that we needed to do this. Responding this way, stepping forward to meet this challenge, took the sting out of our financial predicament. It made us feel like we were embarking on a great adventure, and helping the environment as well. Emergencies? 911. Bad weather? Stay at home and keep cozy if possible, or suit up and soldier on.

I am grateful for our neighbors, who have offered use of their cars in a pinch. In general, our neighbors have really banded together to support each other through this Great Recession. We all share the same old-fashioned push mower, to save gas costs. We have not gotten organized about it, but many of us have gardens and productive fruit trees, and there is a lot of informal trading of produce that goes on. I've heard of communities that post maps of fruit trees that are on public property, or on the land of tolerant homeowners. It's like the old hobo practice of sketching a drawing of a cat, shorthand for "a kind-hearted woman lives here."

I wonder if worrying about our weight or blood pressure has become a thing of the past. I am allowing myself to enjoy the choices we are making. I won't get puffed-up with pride, as it took hardship to get us out of our car and away from our computers. It took the realities of poverty to get us out in the garden and onto the porches of our neighbors. I pretty much keep my bicycle helmet on most of the time now. It's a great helmet--big like one that football players wear, and covered with swirling rainbow stripes. It's comfortable, and I wear it like armor.

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Thank you for sharing your story. I find it deeply inspiring and I look forward to reading these installments. It reminds me that there is joy to be found in things that look so difficult from the outside.

Great, keep it up. si1

We had the same experience when our car died and we decided to use public transport, walk and bike. Thought it would be tough, but actually our quality of life improved. I lost weight, lower my blood pressure, life got simpler and slower, didn't stress about car repairs and gas, no longer frustrated with driving in boston or parking tickets, we actually got to know our neighborhood and even visited places where parking would have been impossible. Like you said, it became an adventure!

You ROCK the world Girl. This is so awesome... ! I can TOTALLY relate in a bit of a different way....
We gave up having a HOME. We get the same kinds of concerned.... wow really? are you sure? what about? what about?
It does not bode well to feed the insecure parts of me

BUT-- we are soldiering on.. finding new ways to be and do and live and WE LOVE IT!

You are so awesome I cannot even stand it..

what cool adults your children will be !!!!

Great stuff! Hope you can find time to keep it going.

I used to read *books* about this stuff back in the 70s ... how to save on everything (I was into frugal living) ... which might be an idea for what you could do with this story. Because this 'recession' could be with us for quite a while. And lots of people might decide: you know what? to hell with it.

I think a lot of people really go wrong trying to label bicycling as a 'green' choice. Something you should do to save the environment. While probably 100 people in the world do it because it's environmentally responsible, the rest do it because they have to, because it's easier for them or because they simply enjoy it.

I think you mention some of the much better reasons to do it, and some of the much better reasons more places should support people doing it - it makes for better communities, saves you a lot of money, and gives you motivation to do other beneficial things like gardening and sharing things with your neighbors.

Cars are ideally suited for certain things, and they have some advantages to other ways of moving around, especially in places which are designed for travel by car, but there is no need for a car to be a part of the American dream.

Sincerely wish you the best of luck, in bicycling and gardening and life with those around you. Cheers!

Hi, having been raised by a blind mum, I never really got used to the car thing. I have owned one, but, personally found it DECREASED my quality of life. You stop considering how to spend your time and start dashing about until life is a blur and you're chasing your tail. I love my bike. It's quick enough to find out what's over the next hill, and slow enough to smell the roses. I cycle to work (I work night shift so I invested in a really good front light). I pick up my groceries, meet friends for coffee or meals, go to the library and go on holiday camping - all with the bike, come hail or shine. I am not stunningly green, I could buy a new car outright, but, if I were going to splurge it would probably be on another bike :). So I guess I just wanted to say that although everything takes some adjustment, in a few months time you might find life simple, free and the family closer because of pedalling together. Happy cycling!

About the car versus grocery bill thing...no. I found that getting rid of one car actually saved money, the grocery bill did not go up, but the quality of food did because we stopped hitting the drive thru's. Fast food is EXPENSIVE compared to make it at home stuff.

Aaron

Hi - I came across your blog - congrats on being car-free... I went car-free 2 years ago (hard to believe it's been that long already!). At first, it IS a SHOCK to your system and you feel vulnerable - thinking about the "What If's?" But, like you said, you do have to think things out ahead of time and allow for the time it takes to get places. But, that's part of the fun too. I know you had to go car-free in order to make ends meet, but you will see that it saves you money in the long run...especially when you see the price of gas going up. :) You learn to "work around situations" to get what you need to get. You get in touch with your immediate vicinity, and if you use public transportation, it broadens your transportation circle. It's good that your neighbors have offered their car(s) for you to use - it does come in handy from time-to-time. I know it's a lot harder with kids, but it's an adventure for them too - not just a boring car ride somewhere. :) Good luck to you all! Charmaine

You are an inspiration to me... always. I don't have a car either, but hey... I live in NYC.

Have you seen this site? You can be the new Lemon Lady.

Once while living in Boston, I got the idea to ask a neighbor if I could collect mulberries from her tree. She never seemed to use them. I was scared to ask, thought it would be rude... but she just smiled and was happy someone actually had a use for the damn things. I am not a huge mulberry fan, but hey, it's local fruit and it's good enough for the Hunzas, so I dehydrated them in my food dehydrator and put them on my cereal, snack bars, etc for a while.

Sometimes all you have to do is ASK that neighbor to borrow some sugar, let someone know you could use some help with babysitting, or knock on that door and ask if you can pick a few fruits before they litter the sidewalk forever. That's a huge realization, actually, for a stoic New Englander like me. ;)

I have some more rocker duds and stuff for Molly.

xoxoxo

"This city transcends not only borders and nations, but space and time. When I walk through its streets, I experience all my life—past, present, future—at once in my mind. Memories overlap and become real."
– Sarah Noack, from City of Dreams

duh, sorry! I don't have the article link anymore... just google "lemon lady CA." xo

"This city transcends not only borders and nations, but space and time. When I walk through its streets, I experience all my life—past, present, future—at once in my mind. Memories overlap and become real."
– Sarah Noack, from City of Dreams

Sarah, Shareable.net published an article about the Lemon Lady: http://shareable.net/blog/urban-foraging

Jeremy Adam Smith
Editor, Shareable.net

Thank you for telling your story. I am in a very similar boat except that although the DH remembers our financial burden when I go buy food for me (I have allergies and it can get expensive) he never considers getting rid of at least one of our three (!) cars. We live in a rural town but we only live a mile away from a Safeway, both my DD's new doctor (after this weekend when she is born) and my own, and the hospital. Plus we only live a mile away from my parents, 2 from the second nearest 2 "hubs" of town, and 3 from his work. We share rent with a roommate but for the cost of our current car insurance we could move into a place a half mile away with a room for our DD. You prove to me that not only can I truely get rid of my car once my DD is on my bike and/or I can walk 2 miles without extensive pain but eventually my DH will also see that we can get out of debt quite quickly should we just sell a car. So thank you for the hope and inspiration that your own tough times have given to me.

Thanks for writing. So much of what I read about people simplifying their lives are people with either a. no children or b. have had great, financial success and sell it all to go live on Maui or something. My husband and I are living the "Simple Life" by circumstances, not design. Although being a nurse I still have a job, my husband has been out of work and staying home with our youngest. We are thinking of giving up the car to save money and your post was informative and inspirational. And I loved the part about pulling Punch and Judy!

Hope you all are doing well and look forward to hearing more of how it's going.

Susan in NJ

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